Job 16:1-2 [paraphrased] Then Job answered and said, I have heard many such things, you are all miserable comforters.
My focus in my posts has been related to a friend [who] felt I gave more advice, than listening to her feelings. Have I truly been a friend? That's a really good question. I thought I was. I thought I was [potentially] helpful advice, but being helpful is in the eyes of the beholder.
If what you really need is for someone to listen to you while you process things, before determining how you want to respond to an issue, having someone else tell you what you should and shouldn't do undermines that. It keeps you from processing things the way you wanted.
This has been on my heart ever since I've heard this, and I wanted to make it right, but I'm uncertain as to how to do this. All I can do is pray that the Lord God, heals her heart from this, and that I learn the lessons He wants for me to gain from this. I don't mean, learn it for a few minutes to appease Him, but to become the friend He wants me to be for others on His behalf, instead of someone who alienates them. I still have lots to be prayerful about!
